As a young child I recall dreaming of my "prince charming" that would sweep me away and carry me on his white horse into the sunset. Some image huh? By reading fairy tales such as Snow White and Cinderella little girls imagine the man they marry will have these strong, brave, romantic qualities as did Prince Charming. At the age of 25 I began to think there was no such thing as "prince charming." I began to look at the life around me and see all of my "friends" were getting married and having children. Here I was, way behind the "game" and heart broken. .......Along came a spider
"I had it all"....so I thought. We had a popular social life, community workers, educated, and "in love." But with what? The concept of the lifestyle that was being lead? Perhaps. We were not rich by any means but with no children we had few expenses.
It felt like a dream....like a fairy tale. But with all fairy tales there is an evil character. At first I thought Cancer was the evil villain. He still is evil and took a precious woman from this earth. During the battle I was "so in love" with the idea of this "prince charming" I had stumbled across. We traveled, dined out frequently, bought what we desired....you know...the big screen tv that ALL women want...lol. As the fairy tale continues, prince charming asked the princess to marry him while flying in an airplane overlook Christmas lights in the south. I mean...how do you say no to that after 8 months of the battle of cancer with his mother, living together, making investments, etc.?
I had the wedding I dreamed about. The big princess gown, huge church, big bridal party, fancy engagement showers, catered rehearsal dinner, big southern baptist church summer wedding with guests from all over the US, and a reception at the big country club. The tables were set with 3 ft. tall centerpieces of hydrangea;s, linens.....as I said...and fairy tale...a dream.
We honeymooned at a Sandals in St. Lucia, the Caribbean and had all the luxuries a person could wish for. Life proceeds with this same dynamic. Home life was another story. It was not a dream or fairy tale but completely the opposite. It was dismal. Our relationship was terrible in every way it could be. No matter how hard I worked at it, it just never seemed enough. Down came the rain and washed the Spider out! Text messages can really get people in trouble. So can social networking chat. On the upside, it's WONDERFUL evidence :) So......I DON'T!
I still do believe everyone has a true love out there and I may have found mine amidst this fictitious fairy tale I used to live. Life is what you make of it. I am very blessed!
Unfortunately, society still emphasizes a very unrealistic idea of love. Love is dynamic and it takes people aware of and willing to work with that dynamic to create successful long-term relationships. I will most likely never feel the same way about Shaun that I did when we first got together almost 10 years ago (whoa!), but that doesn't mean we love each other less. However, we do love each other differently. We expected that so we've done pretty well, I think. I don't really believe that there's one true love for everyone, but I do believe that a realistic perception of love and mutual cooperation is likely to maintain a relationship a lot longer than otherwise.
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Yeah...society bites...lol! The other struggle with it all is the disapproval from my family and friends. My mother is the only outspoken one about the subject. I honestly don't think at age 28 I really should give a crap if the parentals agree with my love choice or not. I'm a grown woman whom they don't support and haven't for years. Can't people just be happy for one another?!?
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